bluephinThink Before You Spank: A Sad Story to Learn From
October 10th 2008 03:45
We have all heard of different stories of young children being maltreated by their parents, guardians or relatives. In some countries like Australia, children are taught that hitting or shouting are forms of child abuse even if it is done by their own parents who are just trying to discipline them.
Debating on whether spanking as a form of discipline is acceptable or not is not my main focus on this post. I am here to tell of a story that I have read once in an email circular. Perhaps some of you may have heard or read of this story at some point in the past. The details may not be as it was (I don’t remember the exact details but the plot of the story has always stuck with me), but the concept is the same. Let’s just say that this is my revised version of the story.
You see, there are some things that are easy to mend. While there are some things that you could never bring back to how they’re supposed to be. Most of the time, we let anger, pressure and stress get in the way of a sound mind and decision that we end up regretting what we have done.
Kids are just kids. They could do some silly things without actually meaning to upset us. Everything to them is just play. If parents would not exercise utter tolerance and a sound mind they might always end up doing something that they would suffer for for the rest of their lives.
We are created with our head above everything else. Let us take advantage of that in every situation – especially when handling our children.
Debating on whether spanking as a form of discipline is acceptable or not is not my main focus on this post. I am here to tell of a story that I have read once in an email circular. Perhaps some of you may have heard or read of this story at some point in the past. The details may not be as it was (I don’t remember the exact details but the plot of the story has always stuck with me), but the concept is the same. Let’s just say that this is my revised version of the story.
A father came home from work – tired and stressed-out. To relax his mind a bit, he went out the backyard to work on a woodcraft that he has been making. With his tools and little bits of wood everywhere, he started hammering away. So wrapped up in what he was doing, he didn’t noticed his 3 year old son go into the backyard where is working, grabbed a smaller hammer and started mimicking what his dad is doing. Unfortunately, the piece of wood that the little boy worked on was a finished piece of his dad’s woodcraft. Upon hearing the commotion behind him and saw his masterpiece turn into “fireplace wood scraps” his patience got the better of him. He grabbed a tube of wood and smacked his son’s hand several times with it.
The little boy’s mother was summoned to the backyard by his son’s shrill crying.
They ended up bringing the child to the hospital. The injury he got wasn’t at all a joke. Four of the fingers from the one hand that was smacked were broken. The kid’s hand was bandaged well to keep his fingers from dangling. A couple of days in the hospital and he was then send off home.
While the child was in the hospital, his father created a model plane for him. As soon as the child gets home he dashed off to his room and saw the model plane that his dad has made for him. He was so happy and was jumping up and down. His dad then approached him, hugged him and said sorry.
The little boy looked into his dad’s eyes and said with all smiles, dignity and curiosity, “The wood’s all fixed up now, Daddy. When will the bones in my fingers get better?”
The little boy’s parents both grew teary-eyed. How could they tell their son that the only way his fingers would be back to how they were is if they would implant some made up bones in his hands.
The little boy’s mother was summoned to the backyard by his son’s shrill crying.
They ended up bringing the child to the hospital. The injury he got wasn’t at all a joke. Four of the fingers from the one hand that was smacked were broken. The kid’s hand was bandaged well to keep his fingers from dangling. A couple of days in the hospital and he was then send off home.
While the child was in the hospital, his father created a model plane for him. As soon as the child gets home he dashed off to his room and saw the model plane that his dad has made for him. He was so happy and was jumping up and down. His dad then approached him, hugged him and said sorry.
The little boy looked into his dad’s eyes and said with all smiles, dignity and curiosity, “The wood’s all fixed up now, Daddy. When will the bones in my fingers get better?”
The little boy’s parents both grew teary-eyed. How could they tell their son that the only way his fingers would be back to how they were is if they would implant some made up bones in his hands.
You see, there are some things that are easy to mend. While there are some things that you could never bring back to how they’re supposed to be. Most of the time, we let anger, pressure and stress get in the way of a sound mind and decision that we end up regretting what we have done.
Kids are just kids. They could do some silly things without actually meaning to upset us. Everything to them is just play. If parents would not exercise utter tolerance and a sound mind they might always end up doing something that they would suffer for for the rest of their lives.
We are created with our head above everything else. Let us take advantage of that in every situation – especially when handling our children.
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