bluephinHave I Told You Lately That I Love You?
September 21st 2006 09:01
Ok, so this 'short thought' isn't exactly Chatter on Children however, I justify it by saying that for all women who want to have a child, they have to meet a man first (unless you're into other forms of contraception). Actually, it's been sitting on my writing disk for a while and figure I should post it somewhere so I can delete it. There's a previous post I've done today on kids toys for those who are only here for the kiddies.
We women, glorious creatures that we are, relish being told that we’re loved. It’s so obvious when we’ve fallen in love that our girlfriends remove us from the pub crawl invitation list. Pointless inviting you if you’re not interested in chatting up the local Fabio.
In fact, ‘I love you’ are probably the only three words guaranteed to illicit an instantaneous smile (though there is ‘You’ve won lotto!’). But can we hear these words too much? If your loved one is constantly telling you how much they love you, does it dampen their meaning?
Picture this scenario. You’ve been dating Mr I-think-he’s- mr-right for six months. Everything is as smooth as the polished engagement ring you’ve been eying off. Then the phone calls start.
‘Just rang to say I miss you sweetheart, I love you.’ Mr I’ve Read Cleo says. How sweet, you think. You can picture him sitting at his cluttered office desk gazing longingly at your photo which is stuck to his computer with cello tape.
An hour later - ‘I can’t wait to see you again, love you.’ Mr SNAG says. You hang up smiling and at the same time think it really isn’t that long till we’re meeting for dinner. You put it down to boredom at work (realistically it’s probably due to the lack of eye candy available).
During the course of your work day you receive another five phone calls like the ones above. Then at 10 minutes to 5, when you’re busy trying to look busy so no-one delegates any last minute tasks to you, the phone starts ringing.
‘Hi darling, me again. I can’t wait to hold you tonight. I love you, don’t ever forget that.’ I’m thinking you should buy him a cat, you’re thinking dear god, does the man have a guilt complex or was his previous girlfriend an ice queen? Truth is, you haven’t had the chance to miss him at all today because you’ve spent half of it on the phone to him.
These phone calls become a regular thing. No less then five times a day you receive calls telling you how much you’re loved and wanted. Picture enduring that for another six months – starting to feel suffocated? Lost the fuzzy wuzzy feeling when he says I love you? Beginning to wonder if Mr Right has some dependency issues?
If you find yourself in a situation similar to the one above and you’ve answered yes to all of my questions – DO NOT DO ANYTHING because chances are you’ll break up with Mr Massive Phone Bill and hook up with some neurotic who believes that real men don’t cry and the only woman he could ever love is his mother. Then guess who’ll be making the ‘I love you’ phone calls.
We women, glorious creatures that we are, relish being told that we’re loved. It’s so obvious when we’ve fallen in love that our girlfriends remove us from the pub crawl invitation list. Pointless inviting you if you’re not interested in chatting up the local Fabio.
In fact, ‘I love you’ are probably the only three words guaranteed to illicit an instantaneous smile (though there is ‘You’ve won lotto!’). But can we hear these words too much? If your loved one is constantly telling you how much they love you, does it dampen their meaning?
Picture this scenario. You’ve been dating Mr I-think-he’s- mr-right for six months. Everything is as smooth as the polished engagement ring you’ve been eying off. Then the phone calls start.
‘Just rang to say I miss you sweetheart, I love you.’ Mr I’ve Read Cleo says. How sweet, you think. You can picture him sitting at his cluttered office desk gazing longingly at your photo which is stuck to his computer with cello tape.
An hour later - ‘I can’t wait to see you again, love you.’ Mr SNAG says. You hang up smiling and at the same time think it really isn’t that long till we’re meeting for dinner. You put it down to boredom at work (realistically it’s probably due to the lack of eye candy available).
During the course of your work day you receive another five phone calls like the ones above. Then at 10 minutes to 5, when you’re busy trying to look busy so no-one delegates any last minute tasks to you, the phone starts ringing.
‘Hi darling, me again. I can’t wait to hold you tonight. I love you, don’t ever forget that.’ I’m thinking you should buy him a cat, you’re thinking dear god, does the man have a guilt complex or was his previous girlfriend an ice queen? Truth is, you haven’t had the chance to miss him at all today because you’ve spent half of it on the phone to him.
These phone calls become a regular thing. No less then five times a day you receive calls telling you how much you’re loved and wanted. Picture enduring that for another six months – starting to feel suffocated? Lost the fuzzy wuzzy feeling when he says I love you? Beginning to wonder if Mr Right has some dependency issues?
If you find yourself in a situation similar to the one above and you’ve answered yes to all of my questions – DO NOT DO ANYTHING because chances are you’ll break up with Mr Massive Phone Bill and hook up with some neurotic who believes that real men don’t cry and the only woman he could ever love is his mother. Then guess who’ll be making the ‘I love you’ phone calls.
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Comment by migraineur
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This behaviour wears off.. but if you still want romance after you have been married awhile, put up with the suffocating feeling for the first few months.. it's worth it!
Comment by Cinico
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How many times do we hear women complain that their men don't ring them enough?!
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Comment by Threethumbs
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Im thinking its a pritty thin line between creepy, love filled romance and being annoying.
If i finally found the woman who i was going to spend the rest of my life with...Im thinking just out of pure joy i might hit all of those states listed above lol.
I dont think i would be able to help myself.
so im saying sorry in advance.
-threethumbs
Comment by Adrienne
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Comment by Cinico
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Thanks for your comment. I doubt most people would settle, especially if they're considering of having kids - or I wouldn't like to think so anyway. But believe me, it's a bigger stress having children!
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Although it may be fun at first.....after a while i would have to agree with you
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Comment by Adrian
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Hardly cynical at all.
Comment by Espie
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Comment by Cinico
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Hey Adrian
You sure it doesn't sound too cynical? I was so worried about that! Personally, I don't think I have a sarcastic or cynical bone in my body!
Oh, and I never ever lie either!
Comment by Cinico
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We definately have a tendency to believe that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
When my friends I say that I often reply with 'yeah, it might be greener but there's a hell of a lot more bull ants!'
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Comment by Laura
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Comment by Cinico
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Yep, definately stick it out! The scary feeling will pass after a while and his intensity should eventually die (only a little hopefully!).
I have to admit I was initially very taken aback when it happened to me but he kind of grew on me after a while...kind of like a fungis.....just kidding!
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